Every child’s personality is mended under the arms of their parents. It is human nature that a child cannot be raised without proper guidance. A child should be guided and cared at first, to understand and to be accustomed to the world. If the parents are strict and overprotective even when the child grows up, that hardly makes any good. Instead it has a dire effect of the psychology of the child. Few facts can be sorted as following.
Hard to be independent.
A child is normally dependent, but there comes a certain age where the individual steps to the need of independency. This doesn’t mean the child should be allowed to do anything or everything; a parent can give opinions, advices and point out right and wrong. If the parent objects everything the child comes up with in an unnecessary manner it will only disappoint the child. While the child is obliged to do everything according to the parents, eventually the child will walk past all enjoyment and becomes cheerless and unhappy.
Have to make lot of explanation.
If the child has to explain a million reasons when starting something new, like finding a new job or starting higher studies it all becomes tiring. The child gets more frustrated when parents keep rejecting everything while staying in the same opinion of theirs without even trying to understand the needs of the child. So the child comes over more and more explanation even though it’s all a pointless effort to convince the rigid adults.
Miss chances of enjoyment.
Apart from the career and studies some parent don’t allow youngster to go out with friends. When friends go out for movies, parties or any other occasion that particular individual has to beg for permission which is very rarely granted. So the individual misses those opportunities which can be nice memories in life. The child also feels cornered and alienated to the parents’ lack of understanding. The child ends up building hatred towards his/her parents and this leads to the creation of a terrible liar as the youngster tends to make fake excuses looking for freedom he/she yearns.
Getting blamed all the time.
In a situation like this the child should always work according to the will of his/her parents no matter if the youngster likes or not. If the kid tries to go beyond their limitations, the poor soul always gets the blame and the accusation that he/she doesn’t obey the parents. The kid always gets criticism for almost all day to day work and, this makes life miserable and pathetic while it affects this child’s self-esteem.
Cannot discuss issues.
Sometimes the child may face issues and problems in life and if the parents are strict and stern, the child will always have doubts to talk about them with the parents mainly because they very rarely understand what’s actually going on. Instead of listening the adults would give out their opinions without even trying to understand their child. So the child keeps everything to his/her own self and that loosens the connection between the child and the parents. Because of this the kid always depends on outside people without trying to get the support from the parents and this creates a bad attitude towards the family and impairs the bondage.
Difficulty to have relationships.
Here comes the major pressure to the child. If the parents are being strict in everything, regarding relationships the child should expect it more. Some parents disallow to have relationships even after the teenage is passed, and if the adults find out that the youngster is involved in a relationship most of the times they try to break it apart. The parents don’t even consider if it would work or not. What works in particular adults’ mind is that their offspring did something disobedient and unnecessary while they fail to understand it’s normal for the young age to have feelings and develop bonds.
How it affects the child.
Under these circumstances life becomes burdensome and it affects the mentality of the child in many ways. Children who are raised under very strict parents explicit characteristics like anxiousness, overthinking, nervousness and most of them can be depressed as they can hardly do things according to their own will. Instead the particular individuals always have to depend on the parents’ decision or choice. Even when those individuals become responsible in making decisions they commence to doubt their selves as they have never been independent to make decisions.
In this state the individuals get more disappointed about family life as from childhood they don’t have a good picture about it. Instead they only see the burdens and rules inside a family and it affects very badly when those individuals are going to have families on their own.
All parents do their best for the sake of their offspring’s and spend most part of their lives earning to provide a proper education to their dependents. A child should always be grateful to that and respect his/her parents, but that simply doesn’t mean the parent should be too bossy over everything. Even though a child is raised by the parents, he/she is an independent unit in the society. Life is not only about education and career, a child should be guided to an aim in life while being loved and cared in a gentle manner.
What parents should concern is not about spending money as much as they can, but to spend some time talking and understanding their off springs. A parent trying to control children is not sensible; instead it should come from their heart which would build a great feeling of bondage between parents and the offspring’s.
